Divorce is difficult for spouses, but it is also very difficult for children. To negotiate a suitable legal agreement regarding parenting, you need the services of an experienced divorce attorney. Here are a few things to keep in mind when parenting after a divorce:
1. You need to take care of yourself.
You will naturally want to do your best to make sure that your children are happy and secure during this difficult time, but you also need to care for yourself. If you are depressed or exhausted, your children will know and may feel additional stress or sadness. Exercise, eat well, and don’t be afraid to seek therapy if you’re having trouble adjusting. When you are physically and emotionally healthy, you are better equipped to take care of your children.
2. You and your former spouse will still need to work together as parents.
No matter how acrimonious your divorce was, you and your former spouse are still parents together and need to make joint decisions about your children. You will have to treat your ex respectfully, especially in front of your children. This may involve pushing aside your emotions for the sake of your children, which may be difficult—but is necessary.
3. Your children will be upset.
Even if your kids seem fine, your divorce will produce very difficult emotions that they are most likely unprepared for. Your children may take these emotions out on you, as they might view you as the cause of the pain they are feeling. Though this will hurt, you should be prepared to accept it and help them through the emotions surrounding your divorce. If your children are having serious trouble adjusting, consider seeking help from a therapist.
Having a skilled lawyer on your side will make the divorce process a bit easier. Blumberg & Associates in Phoenix can help you through this difficult time and make sure that you and your former spouse establish a parenting arrangement that is acceptable to both of you. Call (602) 277-6180 to schedule an appointment.